Saturday, 7 November 2020

Sometimes we need someone to tell us "Before I open my eyes, get the hell out of there"


It might be an abusive boss. It might be an abusive working environment. It might be an abusive girlfriend. It might be an abusive de-facto or marriage relationship.

You are tired and scared. You are confused about the next step to take. 

You speak with a few confidants, they are scared too. They don't want to tell you to leave so you don't hate them for the advice later.

So you stay. You cry every day as you drive to work or you hate every day as you keep befriending your abusive bestie.

I know, sometimes in life, we just need someone to tell us "Before I open my eyes, get the hell out of there!".

Sometimes we need someone who will literally hold our hands and grab us out of a situation, tell us what to do.

But friends and family can be so careful about what they say. They want to safeguard their relationship with you so sometimes they don't tell you the way it is.

Sometimes they are scared that life might be harder for you if they tell you to leave that abusive job. 

And sometimes they are as clueless as you are.

But I tell you, staying in that hurtful environment is hurting your soul.

When you look around and you don't find that person to tell you what to do. You might need to look deep within and follow your God-given guts.

Wishing you comfort and clarity at this time.

Jumoke Odepe
Somewhere between Lagos and NY

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